Widow and widower dating


25-Aug-2016 06:51

If circumstances require that you move into the home shared with a late spouse, it would be beneficial to have a frank discussion about what can be changed to make you feel as if it is your home too.

It is at this time that you can negotiate about the items he/she would like to keep around.

It is so natural for him/her because that is where they have always been.

It has not even dawned on him/her that another person might find the pictures intimidating.

The house should not remain a shrine to the late spouse, but there may be some special keepsakes that hold sentimental value or children may want something of their mother or father to remain in the home.

Try to be cognizant of these facts and not insist that everything that belonged to the late spouse be disposed of.

If you pay close attention, you actually may learn many interesting things about your new partner, for example: how he/she views the world; how he/she treats a partner; likes and dislikes, etc.

One would include those of her intended and his late spouse, and the next wall would be a continuation of pictures of the life they were leading.

She did not feel threatened by these pictures, but instead thanked the late spouse for helping to make her fiancé into the wonderful man with whom she gets to spend the rest of her life.

A late spouse was most probably a very big part of your new partner's life and to get upset every time his/her name is mentioned makes for a very uncomfortable situation - for both of you.

It is important, especially at the beginning of a relationship, to allow the widow/er to talk freely about his or her late spouse.

That is very good news for you and your new relationship!